Catlin Castan
13 March 2013
Kisses in the Nederends
In
the second part of Kisses in the
Nederends, Hau’ofa continues to remind his audience of the importance of the
whole body. He states: “We must do more by adding to the revered triumvirate of
the body, mind and soul, the hitherto lowly anus”(101). In this moment, Hau’ofa
is urging us to search not only the societally recognized parts of the body but
also the parts that are left unacknowledged.
Initially
while reading this book, I found myself worrying about how I was going to
relate Hau’ofa’s rather graphic text to my service-learning experience. And
then it all clicked--the pre-kindergarteners that I work with each Friday
afternoon at Tunbridge Academy epitomize the type of individuals that which
Hau’ofa wishes to convert his readers. Just as Hau’ofa confronts the, “ dirty,
disgusting and shameful,”(101) parts of the body, these little four year olds
do the same.
Just
as every other Friday this semester, I arrived at Tunbridge Academy around one
o’clock—a time when the kids are absent from the classroom and are running
around in the gym. After completing several classroom tasks such as stuffing
folders and passing out snack, finally the kids joined me back in the
classroom. These adorable four year olds never cease to amaze me; even after
spending an hour in the gym, their energy level remains unchanged: they are
little balls of continuous energy. Along with their miniscule gyrating bodies,
their mouths are moving at the same space—they never stop talking. More
specifically, these kids will talk about anything and everything; they have no
filter.
Amidst
the chaos of snack time, one of the kids—a four -year old named Quinn
approached my desk and asked me to have a “little chat”. If you can’t already
tell, Quinn is by far the most animated four-year old I have ever met—he’s a
riot. So of course I let him plop down on my lap and he began to tell me that
he, “needs to go to the bathroom because [he] has to take a HUGE poop,” and
needs my help. Despite having two brothers, I can honestly say that I was not
prepared for that kind of conversation! I tried my best to hold back my
laughter and agreed to help him. While in the bathroom, Quinn sat on the toilet
and talked to me as if we were at a local café—he proved unfazed and
unembarrassed by the bodily function that he was completing.
While
reading Kisses of the Nederends, I couldn’t help but think of
Quinn. Hau’ofa brilliantly writes, “It is only when you are able to lovingly
and respectfully kiss your own anus, and those of your fellow human beings,
that you will know you have purified yourself of all obscenities and
prejudices, and have overcome your worst fears and phobias”(101). In this
moment, Hau’ofa is summarizing the underlying premise within his text. That is,
he expresses the necessity in confronting the unspoken parts of the body and
urges his audience, “to assign the same values” to their body parts as a means
to equalize them. Quinn successfully achieves this ideal by feeling comfortable
talking about his own poop; he views all of his body parts as equal. Just like
Quinn, most other little kids are still unaware of the negative societal stigma
that surrounds the processes of the “open” body, and therefore these kids find
it quite simple to comfortably embrace all body parts. Hau’ofa writes, “Only
when you treat every part of your body equally can you begin your journey
toward true love. Perhaps Hau’ofa is suggesting that his audience should
attempt to restore their “4-year old mind-set” and embrace their poop.
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